While preparing for this last weekend, I realised an important part of preparation- to have thoughtful intention.
For a person who loves talking and can talk about anything and everything, I realised that sometimes saying things as you intended can get misconstrued depending on who you're delivering this message to.
Communication is such a diverse tool that can be used in different forms. Your body can be a language used in communicating feeling. Your words the tool to communicate information. Tone in the delivery of that message which speaks volume of your current emotion. This is a broken down version of the thought behind intentional communication.
1. Factual Information
details and the actual words that are coming out of their mouth.
Take this for example, the factual information here is that no one wants to date boy with big mouth complaining no one wants to date him. And he gets that. But he thinks they're wrong about not wanting to date him and he hates them.
2. Unspoken Information
This is easier explained with a gif. So here we go... case study 2.0
Pretty straight-forward right? Out right rejection. Classic example of an unspoken NO, face shoving push away. it definitely isn't a yes.
Sometimes though... case study 2.1
This can be confusing sometimes, cause it looks like she might be teasing you. She's smiling but wagging her finger at you. And hey, if you've got the ego the size of Mars, sure... but if not. I'm pretty sure she's saying 'no buddy, don't even try. you ain't getting any of this hot mama'
3. Intention behind Information
Lastly, the intention behind the information.
The BIG life question... why are you telling me this?
Why would someone say this to you? Do you want me to respond in empathy and go 'oh no honey, everything is alright' maybe your intention was for me to soothe your aching heart. Or maybe, there is no intention but one to express your emotions.
But then, what if you just wanted me to agree with you that EVERYTHING SUCKS!
Regardless. I conclude with, sometimes people say things they don't mean, and other times they do. But when we can recognize we're all different and perceive information differently, we are able to adjust the way we communicate. And trust me, when we become adaptable and are able to perceive and communicate differently, our antennas become synced and the world becomes a better place. Because you'll get it and I get it and we'll all get it.